Then there are others, those who just carry the name but don’t embody that true teacher spirit.
When must you cast off the teacher jacket and step forward as a parent? How are you expected to balance your life as a teacher and a parent of a child who attends the same school? Sadly many teacher parents can relate to the fact that their child does not receive the same, fair treatment as others since educators often want to avoid the ‘ teacher’s child’.
I clearly understand the difficulties some parents face in making the decision of choice of school. I’ve always believed that a child should be able to attend the school his parent teaches at as it shows confidence in the school and its staff’s competence. Conversely, if one chooses to send their child elsewhere there must be underlying issues- my view.
Personally, I’ve worked HARD at crafting the type of schooling/ environment my 3 boys ought to receive and since I believe that I give my best, I expect no less to be given to them. I’ve made it a point to never direct their teachers simply because I’m also a teacher, even if I’ve noticed errors or misconceptions. I’ve always filled the gap because hey- your mom’s a teacher.
I’ve never approached another teacher or caused conflict with any of my children’s teachers because I do not try to undermine one’s authority as a teacher. Now, in my 20 + years teaching, I’ve had a parent only once, and VERY recently ( this year) approach me and ( try to) dictate how, what and in what order I should teach because she herself is a teacher. Needless to say, that didn’t go so very well.
ME:- ‘ smile’ , ‘sure’, ‘fine’ – but at the end of the day YOU don’t get to dictate.
Fast forward to September 2017- parent role now.
What gives ANY teacher the right to talk down to a child? Shout at them almost like a dog (sorry dog lovers) simply because you don’t care to associate with the parent who happens to be your co-worker? We all have a degree of autonomy over our classrooms and physical space but does any teacher have the right to ‘chase’ a child who simply comes into your doorway to say hi?
I teach my children to respect ALL adults on a school compound. Further, my youngest who is 6, is the most jovial and fun- loving and says hi to even the stranger on the street. So, it is with a GREAT degree of difficulty that I can accept such behaviour from a teacher. I CANNOT.
Must we not as educators, regardless of the background and social status of a child be accepting of them? Even if the parent is not friends with the teacher?
What would you as a teacher parent do?
I strongly believe:
– Teachers must be fair to ALL students
– Children must not be belittled
– We as adults must not lie or misrepresent the truth about children ( or anyone else for that matter)
– MY MANTRA: I teach the child, not his parent. Sorry- not sorry- regardless of who YOU are, ALL children in my class are equal. None is worse than the other. They will be offered the same opportunities.
– One must not discriminate because the child is considered (hyper) active. We all did child psychology at college/ university. MANAGE!
Then there’s the thing called courtesy. I’d look out for the child of a co- worker even if the child is not in my class. Why? Because he/ she is first and foremost a CHILD. We have a responsibility to the child to do the best and be the best! No child deserves to be treated like a hot potato because her parent is a teacher. We need not to act like the children themselves and assume the role of teacher responsibly.
As we say here in the Caribbean “What ent meet yuh ent pass yuh!” Every dog will have its day.
We teach a hidden curiculum. Also, how we treat children in their formative years impacts them for years. In some cases it can come back to haunt us. It is better for a “millstone to be hung around the neck ” of one who offends a child, for them to be “cast into the sea”.
I for one teach with a clear conscience, I’d never do to a child what I would not like to be done to mine.
What would you do as a teacher/ parent if your child were continuously discriminated at your school?